Everyone seems to be talking about this book!
It’s called the Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, by Mark Manson.
The title of the book alone – is enough to make anyone stop and take notice. It’s definitely one of the things about the book by Mark Manson that intrigued me.
Then I started seeing this book everywhere. Literally everywhere! The book store, inside the Good Reads app, on the coffee table at a friend’s house.
Just warning you that I give away some parts of the book. If you plan to read the book, go ahead and stop here. Please return here after you read the book, because I’m curious if your review will match what I have to say about this book.
I really enjoyed the concept of the book, which is how to start living your life on your terms, and not be so consumed about what everyone else is expecting you to do. I’ve personally had to overcome being the “yes person,” — you know what I mean, being the one who says yes to everyone else and ends up feeing exhausted at the end of the day.
Over the past decade I’ve learned to intentionally live life on my own terms. For instance, I’m super selective about who I hang out with, and I’m very protective about my time because it is so precious.
Obviously, I completely agree with the author in that you cannot give a bleep about every single thing in life and you have to take time for what you love and yourself. However, some other things mentioned in this book leave me thinking that the author is very sad, angry and doesn’t have empathy for other human beings.
Book Review – Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck
Here is one example of something in the book that just doesn’t jive with me. In his book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck – Mark Manson talks about what to do if your mom offers you her fine China dish set and you think it’s ugly and don’t like even China. He basically says you should tell your mom that you don’t like China, or don’t like the pattern, and refuse to accept it. Honestly, I think that is tacky advice. I mean why not just politely accept the family heirloom and save it for your kids? Is there really so much harm in that? Why does this family heirloom have to stop with you simply because you don’t like China or that particular pattern? I honestly wanted to shout to the author “sometimes it’s not about how YOU feel or what you want.”
The author went on to talk about ditching baby showers and even weddings if you find yourself uncomfortable or bored at those types of events!
I read that and thought “wow does this guy even know what being a friend means?” I wanted to shout again “it’s not about YOU!!” Attending those events are all about giving your love, time and focus to people that matter to you. Quite honestly, if you can’t be present for family and friends in their biggest moments,.. then maybe you just don’t care about them at all.
Personally I think this this book should be labeled, how to be unhappy, alone and miserable.
The few “tips” that weren’t completely selfish were things that anyone wearing their big girl panties or big boy underwear should already be doing, and probably are — such as limiting or removing social media, politely not engaging in political talk, avoiding things you don’t want to do at work by scheduling days off or rewarding yourself after you do the tasks you don’t want to do. Um… dugh…
For me personally the book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck was not worth my giving a bleep and reading it.