It’s easy to doubt ourselves and our ability as a mom, a wife, a business owner or career woman. That doubt can lead to self-sabotage that we may not even be aware of on a day to day basis.
If you’re like most of us you’re talking badly to yourself and might not even be aware of how often it happens during the day. You might even unwittingly discourage yourself with negative self-talk. Well friend, a new year is fast approaching and it just might be time to become aware of these negative processes and rein them in!
Check out what we’ve put together below. It’s a list of the three most common negative things us moms tell ourselves, followed by suggestions to banish that bad thought for good.
Banish the 3 Most Common Negative Thoughts that Steal Our Joy
1. No One Understands Me
We have all had those days where it feels like our little bubble of the world is closing in on us and no one else “gets it.” The reality of it though is that so many other moms do get it, but we may not be sharing how we feel so no one knows we are struggling. Ask yourself “have I shared how I feel with anyone else?” And I’m not talking sugar coat it either – I mean REALLY share how you feel, the struggles you’re going through and challenges you’re facing. You might be surprised how people show up for you when you become vulnerable and share what’s really going on in your world.
Not sure where to begin? Start with family, friends, co-workers — anyone you feel comfortable. You can even branch out to social media groups like the Momalot moms group we have on Facebook. Join the group by clicking here. There are lots of moms in the group looking forward to connecting with other moms just like you.
2. I don’t have enough time
I don’t have enough time to “___” (go after my dreams, get healthy, indulge in my beloved hobbies, or fill in your own other ideas). If the only things you have time to do are things you have to do, it sure doesn’t make life much fun.
Begin working to achieve a healthy balance in your life. Allow time each day to take part in things that make your heart sing. Fit your favorite activities into your very busy day. Check out our list of ways to fit more fun into your busy day!
Start small, if you need to, by scheduling just 15 minutes for yourself.
When you proactively take control of your schedule, you’ll be assured that you complete every activity you want to do.
3. I must do it all
Ok mama, it’s great that you want to do it all but no one is perfect. Wonder Woman isn’t real. And and that dream is impossible. So it’s time to give up the notion that you need to be perfect and do it all. You know what I’m talking about… having that Pinterest-worthy home, being the bestest mom (yah, not a word but I love saying bestest), making sure your kids are in all the things. Taking care of everyone but YOU.
Trying to do it all is just going to wear you down. Instead enlist the help of others and adopt the mantra “I’m doing my best and my best is good enough.” You might not believe it at first but over time it will start to sink into your subconscious. You may also want to check out our Momtras to Guiding Your Family for some extra support.
Remind yourself that making a mistake is a real learning experience you can benefit from. Optimistically embrace your errors and realize you don’t have to do everything.
Stop the Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage, while seemingly easy to deﬁne, can be made up of a complex set of actions. If you’ve ever found yourself interfering with the positive parts of your own life, you’ve experienced this intricate set of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. But don’t worry… you can unlearn these habits today!
This book deﬁnes self-sabotage and explains how you may be defeating yourself and keeping yourself from reaching your goals and what you desire in life. In case you’re still not sure whether you engage in these behaviors, the impact of selfsabotage on your life is also discussed.
But best of all, this book details easy steps to help you banish self-destructive behaviors for good! By using these strategies, you can live the more satisﬁed and successful life you so richly deserve.